The break up

Yesterday, caught the movie "The Break Up" by Jennifer Aniston and her latest beau...

Really a meaningful show. It brought out age old issue between men and women. The tension, the unspoken expectations that women expect of their men and how "well" the men took their women's words or requests...

Some lines from the show...
It's not about how many lemons u bought, it's not about whether the laundry or the dishes are cleaned. It's about spending time together with your loved ones.

Thumbs up to the director!! The show really brought out the essence of the conflicts that existed between men and women since Stone-Age, I bet : D

Be it men or women nowadays, we are all so pre-occupied with our own needs, preferences and likes tat we often forgot those of our partners. I am quite guilty of it at times, too selfish, only thinking about wat others can give me before even considering what I can provide.

I guess it's got be a conscious effort to always rem that our loved ones will not be around us all the time. It goes the same for classmates and old time frens, how often do we groan at the tot of yet another class reunion/gathering ;)

Speaking of which, I managed to gather 3 of my part-time coursemates for a get-together last fri. We had a really great time at la Baroque (the former China Jump). Some aged, some stayed the same, we all laughed about the times we had in class. We promised each other that it won't be another 2 years before we meet again. Else we wld be meeting at the Zoo with our toddlers and kids, hahaha...At La Baroque, they had Douglas O and his band, they are one band that I had never listened to since 3-4 years back. They sounded pretty good still, one of the best jokes they cracked really made us bent over with laughter. It's rated, so I guess I better leave the details out ;)

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From Buffalo, NY

Well, finally managed to put a post from here.. A's away at work so i managed to find a little time to post tis from his computer.

Everything's great so far. I love the summer weather here. Sunny but yet cool and dry, not humid. Hadn't had a long vacation for a while and it feels good to be able to laze on the sidewalks cafes, jus enjoying the weather, doing nothing. A's bringing me to white water rafting and sky diving.. i cant wait! :)

I'm having a good time and no regrets tat i came on tis journey at all. A is very nice to me, he is jus so sweet and affectionate and romantic. I know he is trying to make extra effort to make tis whole trip memorable for me cos we both dunno wat wil become of tis relationship/ romance or whether it wil lasts beyond tis trip (tis ten days). We dunno where we'll go from here, everything is jus sorta hanging in the air, in stasis rite now. A is not intending to go back s'pore and in fact has no intention of settling down until he's 37 or 38. He doesnt pretend at any commitment, for which i'm glad. But i'm also wondering about how i'm gonna deal with my emotions when i'm back in S'pore.

Altho i have no regrets, i'm so afraid tat everything wil jus disappear after tis trip.. and it's like there is every possibility of tat happening! My odds for tis relationship is reali not good at all... i dun wana think about it... i'm scared... :(

For now, i jus wana concentrate on the happiness, sweetness and love.. dun wana think about anything..


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Chill Out places...

Went Pub hopping last nite with a fren. We started out pretty early like 9pm. Not much crowd everywhere we went.

First we checked out Q Bar, a very small place with another section upstairs. Seemed that they have specially allocated a timeslot for ladies only from 6-9.30pm, quite interesting concept, gonna jio the gals to hang out there one of these days...we did not stay on cos' there were no seats...the nice attendant advised that we come back after 9.30pm to check out the club section upstairs.

Just a distance away is IndoChine@Empress Place, we decided to stay put. Ordered 2 shots of "Illusion", tasted really yummy..slurp ~ This is another great place to chill out cos' of the super large couches to laze on : ) After a few rounds of blurry "5-10s" game and downing the rest of the beer, I was pretty goggy...we decided to venture back to Q Bar to check out the club...

The same door attendant we met earlier greeted us, " Hey you are back again!" Quite a nice personality. He then mentioned, "But it's quite full upstairs." Thinking that it's gonna to be packed, we proceeded to the staircase. Unexpectedly, we are met with 2 "extra-beautiful" ladies coming down, followed by another 2 more "extra-beautiful" ones shortly after...my fren den cracked a joke:"I think the place won't be full anymore." Hahaha...in the states, we always be very nice and address the "upsized" ladies "extra-beautiful", lest we get bashed up hahaha....so u know what I meant now huh....

We hanged out around for a while, we had some fun posing as the "cool, classy" crowd who hang around the latest, expensive haunts...felt a bit stupid tho...just going along with the flow...I guess I still prefer to be myself...

The last leg of our nite exploration is the Loof, altho we din stay put cos my fren cldn't drink anymore, guess wat we saw at the carpack. It was such a cute scene..the Enormous vs the Mini...



Quote of the day:
Cold mountain mineral water 39cents....
Starbucks coffee 5 dollars....
The look on Ivy's face (after Danny's super-duper lame jokes)...Priceless...
For everything else, there's MasterCard....

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I, Me, Myself...

A friend once told me that I am like a man in a woman's body.

At first I din know quite how to take this, for a while, I tot he meant that I am tomboyish or something like dat. I could have gotten offended hahaha! But den he clarified by saying that he meant that I was a very easygoing gal, can take jokes (funny & disgusting ones esp), very frank about feelings and no beating around the bush kinda of attitude. He felt rather at ease with me and that I am like a buddy. On the other hand, I still possess a feminine outlook

I guess this must be a compliment, at least, to me, I thot so. This is the 1st time anyone commented as such about me, this is rather refreshing from the usual comments. I never knew that I have such a personality till now.

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It's been a long week for me last week...had a trainer, from Mechelen, Belgium...famous for mouth watering chocolates (eating the chocs that my trainer gave me now ; ) and beer (over 500 diff types of beers!!!)

She's here to help set up a database and provide training to us. Tall and blonde and rather sexy voice too...she speaks Flemish (Belgian local dialect, mixture of French and English, just like Singlish)

We had numerous lunches and one of my favs is the Tung Shui Restaurant, this is just another outlet of the many ones, which is near my office...loved the Pink walls and orchids...

We finished the training with a nice cosy dinner at the revolving tower restaurant at Keppel, coinidentally we manage to catch the fireworks. I even had the chance to view it out of the toilet window hahaha

After the usual farewells to my trainer, my fren & I went to Butter Factory at Robertson Quay, a typical tertiary hangouts. Not too bad for the crowd but Nah...the music's boring...our eyes nearly popped when we saw how long the queue was when we decided to leave at 11.30...just 1 hour before, it was like a dead street...

Nothing beats the nice warm breeze of Sentosa, it was nice to get away from the loud music and all...as usual we tot that we need to pay 6 bucks to get into the island. With a stroke of luck, we cooked up the excuse of paying visit to a fren staying at Shangri-la sentosa and the guards actually let us pass without paying. My god, it was so funny, there was even another instance that the computer broke down that we din need to pay. We din think we we have the same good luck that day again : D

We had a really nice time, chatting and getting to know much more about each other...

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My Dear friend...had...left on a jetplane.....

I had wanted to post yesterday, after attempting many times, am finally convinced that I am unable to create a post using my Co's laptop...sianz...

If you ever got the time to surf the web, here's my best wishes to u, dear pal...

Bon voyage and be safe...most importantly, enjoy yourself, meeting up with frens and long-lost "fren"...looking forward to all the stories and adventures when you are back home, ya?

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I probably wun be able to post on the blog for quite some time while i'm travelling... i hope my dear pal become more hardworking at it... she's been MIA.. busy with dating?... hehe ;)


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Butterflies in my stomach... ...

I wil be leaving for the airport in a few hours time. There are butterflies in my stomach now... ... I am excited, fearful, full of anticipation and anxiety all at the same time...

I'm heading to Canada, Toronto, to visit some frens and to New York to visit "someone" of cos. Full of excitment for the trip, the journey and yet fearful becos i'm travelling alone for the first time. And i may be travelling alone in Canada too if my frens are not free to show me around everyday..

Anticipation at new places, seeing familiar faces, seeing "someone" and discovery of new things... yet anxious at how it wil all turn out, how tis journey wil go.. I guess tis time it's a journey in more ways than jus physically...

Well, i dun have high hopes or expect anything.. jus wan to live with no regrets and go and enjoy myself and be HAPPY...

Wish me luck and keep me safe. Thank you god.


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Food and drinks haunts

(Beach Joint at East Coast...)




Hmm.. found and been introduced to a lot of food and drinks haunts recently.. there's the beach and wine place tat i havent managed to check out yet. And the other day, met Dave, we discovered another beach joint at East Coast when we were taking a walk after dinner. Yet to check tat out as well. Another fren has recommended me to try Imperial Treasures at Ngee Ann City. Said it serves good food. Then there's "V... Bali"..



Frank brought me to Timbre the other day. It's a music cafe thingy. They have performaces by musicians everyday. The ambience is good and the food tasty but reasonably priced. Frank told me some of his travel stories and had me laughing til i cried. In stitches the whole nite.. haha..
Nice place, i'll go back there again..


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The twists and turns of life... ...

Anyway, Dave is my net fren. I went to meet him for the first time on National Day, Public Holiday. Like Aten, Dave has been my net fren for one and a half year before we meet up. Mainly becos i was too cautious and shy to meet and partly becos he was very busy too..

We met at East Coast hawker centre for dinner tat day. It was very crowded! Ppl milling around and endless cars coming in. Dunno if it's becos it's public holiday or the ppl expect tat they can see the fireworks from East Coast. After dinner, Dave brought me to "V..... Bali", a very nice drinks place with resort spa ambience. It was comfortable and we had a good chat there. Dave is very nice, and a real gentleman. He opens car doors for me and such..

Funny thing is, we discovered tat we were pri sch mates! We attended the same pri sch and were even in the same class in pri 2! hahaha... the twists and turns of life huh...

I always said tat i wanted to find old frens and make new ones.. well, seems like i've been doing jus tat! Reali happy at finding another old fren. :)


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Inconsiderate @#%*!^

It's maddening! I havent been able to assess blog since August 9th, National Day! Something wrong with the blog server everytime i tried to post! :(

Went to watch movie (Fast and Furious) with Dave yday. We had good seats but the stupid china woman sitting beside me was irritating!! She was talking on her handphone, twice!! And she was talking quite loudly in her china accent too! So distracting! And she wasnt even embarrassed! Until i was so fed up, i said very loudly :"Do u mind???"... Then she said sorry and hurriedly hung up. But she started sms-ing and with alert tone! Until i looked at her and she switched it to 'silent'. Some ppl are just plain inconsiderate. (Angry.)

The movie was so so, not much storyline. But the cars and stunts are ok.
After movie, Dave and i went to Tong Shui for supper. Then we went to Bar None to join Ivy and Dan. The music wasnt good yday.. :(

But at least the company was good. :)


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Blog site has been down...

my dear pal had been trying to post these few days without any success...wonder what's wrong??

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Fireworks... ...Happy National Day Singapore...

Today i was driving home and happen to see part of the fireworks at the esplanade when i was along ECP. It was quite nice... However, becos of the fireworks, the traffic was crawling, almost at a standstill! When the fireworks were over, the traffic got slightly better and after ECP was smooth all the way! Took me an hour to reach home becos of tat! S'poreans, better driving manners pls!!! :(

Incidentally i was rushing home to pray and burn offerings for mid 7th month. Firm instructions to do so. First time i'm doing it alone cos my mum and aunt not free.. it went ok tho.. i think.. =P

Jus a tot... some ppl wld like their life to be like fireworks... bright, beautiful and bringing gladness and happiness to ppl's hearts... how about u?
Me? I think i'm a bit more greedy.. Sure i wan my life to be bright and beautiful and bringing gladness and happiness to ppl's hearts.. But most of all, i wan to bring happiness to the ppl I CARE about AND i wana leave a lasting and INDELIBLE memory with them for life. I hope i've managed to do tat for many family and frens so far.. heehee =)
Wat's the use of having a life like fireworks when at the end of it, it doesnt have much lasting impression on those watching it? =) Jus my view..

Past 12am now... Happy National Day Singapore! May we progress and have prosperity, peace, harmony, health and happiness! =)


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Lazy, sweet days... ...

Was a lazy weekend, surprisingly.. Not much work, so laze at home and was on msn and phone with "someone" for many hours... sweetness... :)

Something funny on saturday, i got hit on by an ang moh client. haha. He was a young chap, quite cute looking, came up to me and asked if i'm attached, then tried to sell hinself as a potential boyfriend and asked for my phone number. haha. I dint give it to him la. hehe. But i'm very flattered though. :)

Went to meet Ivy, Dan and Frank for karaoke session after tat. It's been awhile since i karaoke, we had great fun! :)
Poor "someone" hasnt karaoke for over a year.. think we'll do tat when i go find him.. haha















Check out our music video! :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ViubIXo4Uc


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Nite Out..Great!

I had a really great time last night with Serene, & 2 guy friends at Bar None. The band, Jive Talking was fantastic! I loved all the music they played, it was fun dancing along with the music, which is pretty seldom for me cos' usu you dun get band music that's as nice as those played on the CDs. I wld say that they might be better than the CDs for some of the songs.

I love to dance with friends who appreciate the music, everything just come naturally when we let go and truely enjoy the dance... I loved the way we danced together to the music by the band, it was fun and spirited.

Oh yes, something I will never forget. We were dancing happily to the music and thoroughly enjoying ourselves when my guy friend, it seemed to me, suddenly decided to be a casannova or wat. He actually plucked a Red Long stemmed Rose from the reception and gave it to me . It was really sweet & BOLD of him to do that.

I guess the nite-out did made up for last friday's episode...I was K.O. even before I reached home, if not for Serene, my great pal who drove all the way back home in the east after sending me home...haiz..what more can one ask for ? A friend in need is a friend indeed... : )

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You have a choice...

After reading through what my co-author had written, it reminded me of something that my little brother asked me about some time ago..

What does women look for in their men? Intelligent enough to hold clever conversations, humourous, hv promising careers, sensitive new age guy, etc...it felt like a tall order. What does the women has to give in return then for such a man? 燞ow many men out there are of such a calibre?

I am very surprised to hear tis from my little brother, it seemed to be that the guys nowadays are under tremendous pressure from the opposite sex to really perform up to the expectations.

To me, you can list all u want for a partner, however you may or may not be able to meet such a guy even if you waited for the whole lifetime. 營 feel that ideals and reality are separate and usually they are not met 100%.

For a woman or even a man to have such kind of ideas while searching for a partner, I will safely say that he/she is out to be disappointed, unless it's really the lucky day or wat.

After being in a relationship for more than 10 years and ?

After reading through what my co-author had written, it reminded me of something that my little brother asked me about some time ago..

What does women look for in their men? Intelligent enough to hold clever conversations, humourous, hv promising careers, sensitive new age guy, etc...it felt like a tall order. What does the women has to give in return then for such a man? 燞ow many men out there are of such a calibre?

I am very surprised to hear tis from my little brother, it seemed to be that the guys nowadays are under tremendous pressure from the opposite sex to really perform up to the expectations.

To me, you can list all u want for a partner, however you may or may not be able to meet such a guy even if you waited for the whole lifetime. 營 feel that ideals and reality are separate and usually they are not met 100%.

For a woman or even a man to have such kind of ideas while searching for a partner, I will safely say that he/she is out to be disappointed, unless it's really the lucky day or wat.

After being in a relationship for more than 10 years and seeing the experience of my friends, I can only say it takes 2 hands to clap, some may have it easier some may not. I once had an advice from a friend, "90% of the time, it's boring and mundane only 10% of the relationship that you will get the perks like surprises,treats or appreciation,etc. However, we need to thrive on this 10% to keep us going strong, keep reminding ourselves of all the good things possible in a relationship.

The "Happily Ever After" kinda ending that happen in fairy tales are just bedtime stories that we tell to the kids, it never happens in reality. Usually the ugly and frustrating behaviors start creeping out after the honeymoon period is over. hahaha, sad but true. It all depends on the couple how they iron out the differences.

Having said that, we can go on to argue about how tough it is to be Singaporean man or woman, ultimately we got to tell ourselves how we want to live it out

There is Always a Choice for Everything

There is no such things as "No choice..." You can choose to not work a company or you can choose to rough it out. You can choose to walk away from a troubled relationship or you can stay to resolve the problems. It's all up to ourselves...

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7th month "Ge Tai" (stage show)

Yday i went to a 7th month "ge tai" (stage show) dinner. It's my first, and probaly only one for tis 7th month. It's the typical thing where they have the stage show and do bidding of auspicious 7th month items for high price for good luck and the next 7th month dinner tables. Usually i'll go to one or two of these every year. Accompanying my family la, i dun have such lobang. hehe. Some of my frens are always very surprised when they called and i'm at such "functions". They said they didn't think i'm the kinda gal that wil accompany parents to such dinners, much lest it's mostly held on open grass areas and usually u'll feel warm and sticky. haha. But i'm cool with it.. such things are traditions after all. And it's only once a year.. can be interesting too if the show is good. :)

The stage show was alrite but i was too far away to see much. One thing's for sure, the lady singers and performers were all skippily clad. hehe. The ah beis (old men) had a good time. =P

The compere for the nite was 600 (Liu Ling Ling). My aunt said she's the most popular compere for 7th month stage shows and command the highest price.


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Top of the world

Been feeling very warm and sweet these few days... :)
"Someone" is starting to miss me... said i put "gong tao" on him... haha
Well, it's all very sweet and heartwarming.. and i'm going to see him soon. :)
But i'm not gonna let any of these get to my head.. cos like Ivy said.. i dont wana have high expectation and end up with greater disappointment. Becos me and "someone" have not seen each other for ssooooooo long, things now may be a result of novelty, freshness, intrigue and curiosity all mixed up together, giving us heady a mix of perfume tat carried us away. So i'll jus go with my feelings for now, go with the flow, but i dun expect too much.. Even if in the end we do find tat hey we like each other, we're both skeptical about long distance relationships.. so.. i dunno where this is heading.. wil jus enjoy the ride. At the end, at least i'll have beautiful memories of this period of time and more imptly, no regrets. :)


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Friendship and Love. :)

Received a sweet sms from Andee today wishing me happiness everyday. Andee hangs with a group of us gals after uni. He's jus such a sweet fren. Always very helpful, always keeps in touch with the occasional sms even though we hardly meet up nowadays. If we go to him with any problem, he sure tries his best to help. Hey dun mistake him for a sissy ok.. he's married and all.. jus a very nice fren. :)

Was talking to Raymond the other day and he asked me if i am going to look for a good husband and be a housewife.. if tat's my plan. haha
Another fren overseas asked me a similar question jus yday, whether i'm looking for a rich husband and be a tai tai or housewife. hahaha
No, i'm not guys. Not looking to be tai tai or housewife. I jus wan someone nice, and kind, and responsible, and hardworking. Faithful of cos. Tat's all. Simple requirements for a simple ordinary gal.
They both seem quite surprised. In Raymond's experience, gals either wana be tai tai, housewife, or they wana climb the career ladder, be career women.
The other fren said he felt tat s'pore gals are quite materialistic and look for the 5Cs. haha
Me, i'm jus somewhere in the middle lah. Not so extreme.. i definitely dun wana stop work n lose touch with the world, i do expect the man to provide but within means. I expect RESPECT but i can be a small woman and obliging in reasonable ways. Hey isnt all these normal?? I tot i'm normal.. haha

Anyway, i think a lot of men are materialistic too. They expect their partner to have some status or middle-high income. Some wun even accept gals that are too lowly incomed.. They call it practicality.. having to support some kinda standard of living... i say it's jus the same thing as the women looking at 5Cs. The criterias are there before love moves in...

Rare to find men tat wana pamper u like a princess and be good to u, take care of u like w/o conditions. Hey.. speaking of which i know some reali rare breed amongst my frens huh?... Frank, Brandon, Winston, Luke, Raymond... wow... Takers anyone? :)


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My Dear Co-author

"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same"

This was supposed to be posted earlier in the day, today but alas! My co laptop dun allow me to do so...this was what it read:

"My dear gal pal seemed a little moody today. Like i always say, we cant expect others to behave the way we wish. Having a high expectation more often than not, made us succumb to greater disappointment when things turn out the way we wanted. Having said so, it doesn't mean that we stop hopin...I am a true believer that things will turn out for the better...

Hope it will be better for the rest of the day for her..."

Indeed, from this latest post, she got the answer that she's been waitin for...am i smart or was I able to predict the future....heehee

As for me, I had a couple of sweet sms exchanges with my msn pal today, cant reveal the details tho but it did keep me warm & fuzzy for the rest of the day :D

Oh yes, I have been reminded to always to sign off : ) lest I create confusions hahaha

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Whimsical me... ... Happy day...

Remember how i said i always act on my whims and impulses? Well, sometimes acting on my whims doesn't bear the best results but sometimes it gives me very pleasant surprises too. Like when i act on impulse to go and 'track down' an old fren.. and when i decided on whim tat i'm gona go somewhere to find "someone"... Well, i have my answer from "someone" today... ... he would love to have me go visit. :)

It's funny... such a simple answer but it made me happy... maybe becos i was feeling stupid and embarassed about the whole thing and jus very relieved tat he doesn't think it's stupid or silly... maybe becos i'm a simple person... easily contented, pleased.

Now, i jus need to figure out how to get to the place... 10000 miles away...
Some whims seem pretty difficult to fulfil isn't it?... =P


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Drizzling... Read somewhere tat Love shd be gentle as the drizzling rain, but enough to flood a river...

It's a drizzling morning today... I put the above caption on my msn... One of my frens told me tat basically it's got to be a reali reali reali long drizzle for Love to flood a river... i replied him tat "yap. tat's the whole idea isn't it."


Was chatting with Eileen on msn. Eileen is my reali reali close fren, one of my best frens. She's all the way in US. Her hubby is an American. They have the cutest baby gal. :)

Eileen saw the beautiful beach picture on my msn. Instead of asking me where it is, she asked me who i went with.... hahaha..
Then we started talking about guys and she remarked tat i always know the nicest, most prospective guys but somehow always end up with someone who is very different. She says i am funny in tat sense. Going for guys who don't know if they r interested in me but rejecting guys who are willing to die for me. hahaha. i oso dunno why... maybe becos i follow my feelings and my heart... but somehow they always lead me wrong.. haha. i know it's hard for Eileen and other frens to understand and it puzzles everybody... but i dun understand it myself. =P


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